Francesca Stutely

My journey to Yoga

Uncomfortable in my Body

Puberty hit me like a train, I went from being a very happy, active skinny kid, to a disgruntled, static teenager. The 4 walls of a grammar school didn’t agree with me, I felt like a caged, animal as I watched the antique clocks go round. I felt stupid and I couldn’t keep up academically. I started to comfort eat and not move.

My body changed in front of me and I felt out of control. I put on a brave face as I was told, “These are the best days of your life”. I wondered what the miserable future held if these were the ‘best days’! 

“Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.”

Puberty hit me like a train, I went from being a very happy, active skinny kid, to a disgruntled, static teenager. The 4 walls of a grammar school didn’t agree with me, I felt like a caged, animal as I watched the antique clocks go round. I felt stupid and I couldn’t keep up academically. I started to comfort eat and not move.

My body changed in front of me and I felt out of control. I put on a brave face as I was told, “These are the best days of your life”. I wondered what the miserable future held if these were the ‘best days’! 

“Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.”

Age 21

Round the world in 80 Hospitals

Age 21 I went traveling to escape and see the world. After being ecstatic to finally leave what were for me, the miserable English shores, I found myself contracting amoebic dysentery in Nepal, and ending up in hospital in Bangkok. I lost so  much weight in a week I didn’t recognise myself in the mirror. My vision was blurred and it terrified me. I recuperated, and got on a plane to Sydney. As I tried to get off the plane my knees and feet had swollen to the point that I couldn’t stand on my own legs. I was wheel chaired off the plane. Again, I was terrified, I didn’t know what was happening, I was taken straight to hospital, with my friend carrying both our backpacks.

Reactive Arthritis

Looking for answers

I was diagnosed with ‘reactive arthritis’ from food poisoning. The experts didn’t know how treat it, nothing worked. I was at a loss, and so were they. I was in constant pain, and couldn’t stand for long. One day as I was being pushed around by my friend in a wheelchair, I had a ‘moment’. I decided that I had take to responsibility for my own health. I was determined to get well. I had watched my 40 year old next door neighbour in London grow old before her time with crippling arthritis, and was adamant it wasn’t going to happen me. I didn’t know what I was going to do but I knew it was going to have to be drastic.

Age 21

Round the world in 80 Hospitals

Age 21 I went traveling to escape and see the world. After being ecstatic to finally leave what were for me, the miserable English shores, I found myself contracting amoebic dysentery in Nepal, and ending up in hospital in Bangkok. I lost so much weight in a week I didn’t recognise myself in the mirror. My vision was blurred and it terrified me. I recuperated, and got on a plane to Sydney. As I tried to get off the plane my knees and feet had swollen to the point that I couldn’t stand on my own legs. I was wheel chaired off the plane. Again, I was terrified, I didn’t know what was happening, I was taken straight to hospital, with my friend carrying both our backpacks.

Reactive Arthritis

Looking for answers

I was diagnosed with ‘reactive arthritis’ from food poisoning. The experts didn’t know how treat it, nothing worked. I was at a loss, and so were they. I was in constant pain, and couldn’t stand for long. One day as I was being pushed around by my friend in a wheelchair, I had a ‘moment’. I decided that I had take to responsibility for my own health. I was determined to get well. I had watched my 40 year old next door neighbour in London grow old before her time with crippling arthritis, and was adamant it wasn’t going to happen me. I didn’t know what I was going to do but I knew it was going to have to be drastic.

My Mindset

A change had to come

My mindset had to change. I struggled for answers. I had to undo all my imprinted beliefs and conditioning. Back in the UK, my parents argued that I should go back into hospital, I refused. I had to become my own expert, no one knew me like me however I realised I didn’t even know myself. I went traveling again. In Berkeley, California, I started practising Yoga, I loved it. A love affair with Yoga was born. I was recommended to have a ‘Rosen session’. I had never heard of this bodywork. I went along expecting some kind of massage. It turned out to be a pivotal point in my healing. I had no idea how much tension and unexpressed emotion was stored in my body, I cried and cried as never before. Food and alcohol had masked my anger and sadness. I was hooked, I signed up to learn The Rosen Method, I felt compelled to share this beautiful bodywork with others so they could fell the relief and bliss I felt. I changed my diet and gave up my party lifestyle. In my Rosen training the timing was perfect for me as I was taught by Marion Rosen herself. It led me to stay in the USA for 7 years. I needed to heal inside as well as out.

Family

Where is home?

I met my husband, a wine writer, in the USA, and had my son there. When my son was 3 years old we moved to France. I hated it, we visited Spain, I loved it. I told my husband ’ you can be married in Spain or single in France, make your mind up’. We moved to Spain and my daughter was born. As I focused on the kids, my husband focused on drinking wine, and I realised he was a verbally abusive alcoholic. I was financially dependant on him and was trapped. It became unbearable and I didn’t want my kids being continually witness to all that goes with trying to rationalise with an alcoholic, I took them, their toys and clothes, said goodbye to the beautiful house, garden and pool, and left, virtually penniless.

My Mindset

A change had to come

My mindset had to change. I struggled for answers. I had to undo all my imprinted beliefs and conditioning. Back in the UK, my parents argued that I should go back into hospital, I refused. I had to become my own expert, no one knew me like me however I realised I didn’t even know myself. I went traveling again. In Berkeley, California, I started practising Yoga, I loved it. A love affair with Yoga was born. I was recommended to have a ‘Rosen session’. I had never heard of this bodywork. I went along expecting some kind of massage. It turned out to be a pivotal point in my healing. I had no idea how much tension and unexpressed emotion was stored in my body, I cried and cried as never before. Food and alcohol had masked my anger and sadness. I was hooked, I signed up to learn The Rosen Method, I felt compelled to share this beautiful bodywork with others so they could fell the relief and bliss I felt. I changed my diet and gave up my party lifestyle. In my Rosen training the timing was perfect for me as I was taught by Marion Rosen herself. It led me to stay in the USA for 7 years. I needed to heal inside as well as out.

Family

Where is home?

I met my husband, a wine writer, in the USA, and had my son there. When my son was 3 years old we moved to France. I hated it, we visited Spain, I loved it. I told my husband ’ you can be married in Spain or single in France, make your mind up’. We moved to Spain and my daughter was born. As I focused on the kids, my husband focused on drinking wine, and I realised he was a verbally abusive alcoholic. I was financially dependant on him and was trapped. It became unbearable and I didn’t want my kids being continually witness to all that goes with trying to rationalise with an alcoholic, I took them, their toys and clothes, said goodbye to the beautiful house, garden and pool, and left, virtually penniless.

Yoga Training

Building myself back up

My mindset had to change. I struggled for answers. I had to undo all my imprinted beliefs and conditioning. Back in the UK, my parents argued that I should go back into hospital, I refused. I had to become my own expert, no one knew me like me however I realised I didn’t even know myself. I went traveling again. In Berkeley, California, I started practising Yoga, I loved it. A love affair with Yoga was born. I was recommended to have a ‘Rosen session’. I had never heard of this bodywork. I went along expecting some kind of massage. It turned out to be a pivotal point in my healing. I had no idea how much tension and unexpressed emotion was stored in my body, I cried and cried as never before. Food and alcohol had masked my anger and sadness. I was hooked, I signed up to learn The Rosen Method, I felt compelled to share this beautiful bodywork with others so they could fell the relief and bliss I felt. I changed my diet and gave up my party lifestyle. In my Rosen training the timing was perfect for me as I was taught by Marion Rosen herself. It led me to stay in the USA for 7 years. I needed to heal inside as well as out.

Now

Happy with my life

I have a wonderful loving relationship with my two children, of whom I am so proud. I feel fulfilled and happy with my life. I am rich inside, and have such gratitude for my experiences, I feel emotionally resilient, physically healthy, and content, all thanks to my Yoga, The Rosen Method Bodywork and my NLP training. I feel compelled to help other people look inside, to connect with themselves, explore their feelings, to change their minds and bodies permanently, and to live in the peace that we all deserve.

Yoga Training

Building myself back up

I got into another relationship which was happy, I did my yoga training, with was the icing on the cake for my love of Yoga, I discovered I loved to teach. Life was easy and I was content. I was giving Rosen sessions. Then the crisis hit Spain in 2008, my partner and I lost our business, my partner lost his son in a car accident and grief hung over us like a constant cloud. We became distant, the relationship fell apart, as we lost everything. My kids and I moved in with my parents. They were low times. All I had was a healthy body, to do yoga, my hands to do Rosen sessions, and my brain. I had to utilise myself to the max. I did an NLP (neuro linguistic programming) course, and became a Practitioner, and then a Master Practitioner, I wanted to understand the unconscious mind. I rented yoga space, and started to run retreats, teaching yoga, and giving Rosen and NLP sessions. With all that I had been through it helped me connect with people on a deeper level. My Rosen training, my Yoga , and my NLP training had helped me weather the storm. I continued to run retreats, and got asked to travel to clients houses and work one on one, and in small groups. This is how exclusive home retreats was born.

Now

Happy with my life

I have a wonderful loving relationship with my two children, of whom I am so proud. I feel fulfilled and happy with my life. I am rich inside, and have such gratitude for my experiences, I feel emotionally resilient, physically healthy, and content, all thanks to my Yoga, The Rosen Method Bodywork and my NLP training. I feel compelled to help other people look inside, to connect with themselves, explore their feelings, to change their minds and bodies permanently, and to live in the peace that we all deserve.